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Funny Things Kids Say #3: I can’t sleep alone.

4 Nov

Sleeping Baby

Not long ago my youngest son, who is eight years old, came into my bedroom just before his bedtime.

My son:                Mom, I want to sleep with you.

Me:                        Why can’t you sleep in your own bed?

My son:                I don’t like sleeping alone in the dark.

Me:                        You always sleep in there.

My son:                I know and that’s the problem, I have been sleeping in that room my whole life and I’m tired of it!

This was not the first time that my son has asked to sleep in my bed; as a matter of fact he comes into my room and tries to make a case for it about once every six weeks. My son is so adorable, I am almost tempted to allow him, but I resist because I know that it is in his best interest to sleep alone (actually, with his brother in bunk beds). Although there are circumstances when it is okay to allow your child to sleep with you) for nurturing purposes (when they are sick, when there is a particularly dreadful storm, etc.), for the most part, children should sleep in their own room because, not only does it build their independence and confidence, but over the years it helps them to develop a sense that they are safe in their home (there are no monsters under the bed and no werewolves in the closet, no matter what Wes Craven says).

Most of the time, a parent allowing their child to sleep with them, fills an insecurity in the parent more so than it speaks to the inability of the child. We want our children to remain babies forever, we want them to need us because it makes us feel good and we want to keep them close, but remember the job of a parent is prepare the child for a world and a life where you will not always be just a few inches away on the other pillow.

Sleep tight!

Toshila Darjean


Funny Things Kids Say #1

29 Aug


My kids are hilarious.  My two sons are eight and nine and I swear they are one great comedic team.  The night before the first day of school as I was helping them pick out clothes for their big day we had an exchange that went a little something like this:

My youngest son:      Mom, what time are you waking us up in the morning?

Me:                                  You need to set your alarm for 6 a.m.

My youngest son:      Mom, please don’t wake me up that early, I need my beauty sleep.

My oldest son (flatly): You’re going to look that way no matter what.

Ha! A little teasing between siblings is natural and while I do not allow any type of malicious put downs or disrespect between my children, on one hand, on the other hand, we have to teach our children how to laugh and the art of being able to take a joke.

A little joke never hurt anyone, teach your children to laugh, even if it’s at themselves from time to time.

Toshila Darjean


Welcome to 5 Star Student!

16 Aug

Kids holding hands

Welcome to 5 Star Student! My name is Toshila Darjean and I decided to start this blog in order share my experiences as an educator and as a mother in hopes that I can create a forum in which the sharing of my ideas, knowledge and experiences may be of assistance to parents, teachers and others for the benefit of our children.

The name 5 Star Student holds significance because I agree with modern educational standards that suggest that children need the positive influence and encouragement of parents, themselves, administrators, teachers and the community in order to become well-rounded, productive adults that have the ability to contribute back to society. Each of the 5 components is essential to our children’s success not only in school, but also in life.

Come back and check out my weekly posts and share your ideas and thoughts as well!

Toshila Darjean